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11.15.2017

Comparison In Social Media

I started Classically Courtney as a way to share what's going on in my life... Whether it be fashion, home decor, interior design remodeling, etc... I wanted to share (hopefully for inspiration) what's going on in my world. Lately I have been thinking...  All these themes are great, and I enjoy the artistic outlet immensely, but I feel like I'm leaving out one of the biggest aspects of my personal life when it comes to my blog.... My faith in Jesus Christ is the central focus of how I strive to live on a day to day basis, and I thought it only seemed appropriate to include some Faith based posts occasionally on the blog as well. I don't want to make any rules or schedules for this series on the blog... whether I'm sharing a current devotional book or Scripture I'm loving... Or just some random thoughts that have been going through my head... I want it to be a spontaneous, heartfelt part of my blog. So, from now on, you can expect to see me posting here and there on different topics that are currently catching my attention.
To start off this new series, I want to talk about something that I feel just about every woman has been effected by...

COMPARISON. 

Whether we want to admit it or not... Who hasn't scrolled through their social media feed, seen a friend or woman that they admire, and thought... Wow! She is so beautiful... She has it all together! She has perfectly styled outfits, an amazing house, she's thin and in shape, adorable kids, handsome husband, she's always cooking gourmet dinners for her family, going on luxurious vacations, etc. etc. etc.... and the list goes on! Without even thinking about it, you can find yourself discouraged and feeling like you will never measure up to such an impossible standard. In the past I have been as guilty as the next girl of having these kind of thoughts.

I consider myself a decently young and inexperienced person, but one thing that I have learned at the age of 26 is... Things are not always as they seem. Yes, those ladies you are stalking on social media (Don't deny it! We all do it!) are undoubtedly blessed women... but we can never truly know a person from their online image. So many people that I have perceived to have it "all together" I have found out have gone through some really tough stuff in life. They have quietly suffered through things we may never know about. Comparing your behind the scenes, raw life to their glamorous highlight reel is hardly an equal comparison. If we allow it, comparison can sneak in and steal any joy, appreciation, or gratefulness that you should be experiencing.

When it comes down to it, why do we compare ourselves to other women when it is so obvious that God designed us to be different and unique? Why do we try to squish ourselves into a one-size-fits-all American beauty standard? Galatians 1:10 really stood out to me and I think it answers my question...

For am I seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10



When we are seeking the approval of others we constantly feel like our lives have to measure up. We don't want to be looked at as "less"... or Heaven forbid someone thinks we are boring! When we seek the approval of Christ, our perspective changes a bit...

What is more important? That we have the latest fashion trends, the prettiest house in town, the perfect complexion, the cutest husband or boyfriend on Facebook... or a personal, daily walk with Jesus that, in my opinion, makes a young lady much more lovely than any "picture perfect" social media post ever could.

When we begin to change the lens we are viewing our lives with, comparison becomes less and less daunting. It doesn't happen over night, but with time in His word, and surrounding yourself with women who share the same values, comparison can slowly but surely change to contentment...

Now, everybody knows I'm a girly girl... I don't think that will ever change, to be honest! I absolutely love picking out outfits, home decor, interior design... the whole works! I feel like God designed us as women to love the prettier, softer things in life. While there is nothing wrong with any of these things, I pray that God will help me to stay focused on what truly matters to Him... I don't know about you, but more than my style or online image, I want to be defined by my love for Christ and others. There is nothing more beautiful than that!

42 comments :

  1. Such an encouraging post, Courtney!

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  2. This is such an encouragement! Thank for for sharing your heart, Courtney!

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  3. That was beautiful & spot on! I don't ever remember reading that scripture! Thanks for bringing it out! I needed it!

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    1. Thank you! :) It really stood out to me as well!

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  4. This is right on! ❤ Thank you for letting the Lord use you to encourage other ladies!

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  5. This is so awesome, and genuine! Thank you for encouraging, and uplifting us. That is needed in today's world! Thank you!❤

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  6. A wonderful post and so true! Even as Christian ladies, it's easy as you said to compare our lives with what we see as the "highlights" of others on social media. We forget that we are "fearfully and wonderfully made." Or we feel more fearfully than wonderfully made:) Thanks so much for the post!

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  7. Wow, beautiful words and so true. Thank you for sharing from your heart!!

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  8. This was beautiful, Courtney!
    ~ Hannah

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  9. Thank you soo much for sharing this with us <3 this is an amazing encouragement and a reminder of God's love and Word! I think a lot of us women struggle with this and it is refreshing I know we are not alone!! Even someone as beautiful and great as you feels this way sometimes,xoxoxo thank you Courtney.

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  10. Thankyou Courtney! This was a real encouragement and made me realize that if people can't except for who you are then they shouldn't be in your life.

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  11. You hit this on the head. Great post and so true! Keep them coming.

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  12. Thank you so much for this post! Glad you wrote on this topic & love the devotional book :) it has always help me think about the verse whenever I actually write it out.. thanks again & may the Lord bless you!

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  13. Thank you for sharing your heart....the reminder is needed....I see this spanning all ages of women.

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  14. Great post ❤❤

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  15. Wonderful reminder. You've caused me to think of Philippians 2:3, "Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves." Oh to always have an "others" heart, then we truly will rejoice over that which the enemy would love us to envy. And you, my sweet young friend, are definitely defined by your love for Jesus. He radiates from your countenance. Thanks for shining and sharing Him so faithfully. Blessings, Joy

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  16. I love this! I've been thinking about the same things lately. I used to be so painfully worried about how I looked and whether other people liked me. But living like that is miserable. What gives me true contentment is not living to impress other people, but to be like Jesus and live His love. I'm not perfect and I still fall into the trap of comparison every once in a while, but every day I see more value in finding my identity in Jesus. Thanks so much for sharing! ♥

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  17. AMEN!!!! I'll be praying that all of us choose to find our worth in Christ and not in what others think of us! Thank you so much for the post Courtney!

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  18. As women “mature” (get old), even as believers, we can struggle with our value. Even our spiritual value! It is not like it was generations ago, when it was age before beauty. You are spot on with this theme and remembering this is vital for a sound mind. This also reminds me of Proverbs 31:30, Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
    Thank you for this devotion!

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  19. Thank you for sharing this wonderful reminder. May God bless you!

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  20. I love seeing you do these kind of posts! I hope to see more of them ;) I love anything you post, though!

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  21. the only reason that I picked Anonymous is that none of the others fit :) I used to key in data for personal tax returns and would think "wow" how can someone have this much money. They have more in stock dividends than I do in income. And then I got to the blocks that checked 'over 65 and blind' and realized how rich I was. Another one was a child who had amazing income and once again I was envious. And then a co-worker walked up, looked over my should and remarked 'he's the son that is enrolled in blank school', which is a school for mentally challenged and handicapped children. You're right, Courtney, you never know their entire story and should not compare. Be thankful for who you are and what the Lord has blessed you with. We all have more than we deserve. Blessings!

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  22. Wow awesome can't wait for more and so true and encouraging even though I looked up to Collingsworth ladies as role models any way �� Love y'alls music and pray for you with travel when j see you're heading out on road ..

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  23. Last night was one of those nights when every post I saw featured someone better dressed and better looking than me. I literally sat on the couch and cried, devastated. Foolish tears, for God then spoke to my heart: "Be grateful for what I have given you; I have given you what you need to serve Me, for your body and life." I began to thank Him for how He created me—fearfully and wonderfully made!—and what He given me. Certainly a perspective-changer when I think of life without my nose, my eyes, my hair, and everything else I bemoaned!

    Your words are so timely this evening, a good follow-up to my "lesson" last night. I especially liked these lines: "So many people that I have perceived to have it "all together" I have found out have gone through some really tough stuff in life. They have quietly suffered through things we may never know about. Comparing your behind the scenes, raw life to their glamorous highlight reel is hardly an equal comparison. If we allow it, comparison can sneak in and steal any joy, appreciation, or gratefulness that you should be experiencing." Well said, and thank you!

    I enjoy your Instagram posts, and your outfit pictures give fresh inspiration to my wardrobe. (And I use that wand from your hair tutorial all the time!) Thanks again for your encouragement and pointing us to Jesus!

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    1. ❤❤❤ I'm so glad this could be an encouragement to you!

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  24. This post is beautifully written and very encouraging! I appreciated your wise and kind words.

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  25. When God puts something in your heart and head and then into words you do it so beautifully. The same as God directs you on your path for serving Him(God). Bless you in your lifes ambitions

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